Hi, it’s Boo here.
I had a great weekend meet up with some of my girlfriends for drinks at the Opera Bar, most of whom are single, and we had a funny conversation around what women find attractive in a man. Major turn-offs included long nasal hair, ugly shoes (that’s my pet hate), body odour (OMG that would turn anyone off) – the list went on and on and we were in fits of laughter
At the end of the conversation, we all agreed a man that was CONFIDENT, WELL-GROOMED with a SENSE OF HUMOR would charm the pants off us and would win every time over a man that was good looking but lacked these things.
So here (drum roll) are the 6 things men need to attract women.
Confidence is a big one to attract women: women would rather go out with an ugly confident guy than a good-looking nervous wreck.
Women are attracted to men who are sure of themselves. We like men who take the lead and make decisions for us. There is something about a man that talks with confidence and optimism about his life.
But a little word of warning, there is a difference between confidence and arrogance.
Don’t spend the whole time talking about yourself and bragging about your accomplishments; a bit of humility goes a long way to naturally attracting women.
Sense of Humour
Women love a man with a sense of humour.
The ability to make a women laugh plays a big part in how to attract women.
And it’s a scientific fact – research from Stanford University found that women showed more activity in the reward-related regions of the brain than men when they were shown funny videos. The research is thought to support the idea that women “have evolved to appreciate humour, whereas men have evolved to produce it.”
So guys, make her laugh and (a big tip) don’t take yourself too seriously. Next time you drop food on your shirt, make a joke out of it and she will have a giggle too.
Remember to have fun and make her laugh and you’re on the way to creating natural attraction.
Good Listening Skills
Listening is an underrated skill, and a man that listens and really takes on board what a women is saying is a natural turn-on.
As women we love to talk about our feelings and when we feel heard and understood it creates a natural attraction.
So remember to spend less time talking about yourself and more time listening and asking us questions.
Also keep in mind that women aren’t looking for solutions, they just want to be heard and feel like they are understood.
She will appreciate it if you offer reassurance rather than a solution, and will be drawn closer to you.
Well-Groomed and a Sense of Style
First impressions count and when a man is well-dressed and well-groomed it’s a turn-on, so let’s talk about CLOTHING.
A well-dressed man doesn’t necessarily have to wear the latest Armani suit but he should look put-together even when he’s wearing jeans and a shirt.
The smart casual look is sexy but shorts, thongs and a singlet isn’t!
Grooming is also key. Remember the nasal hair? Big turn off. Make sure you get your hair cut regularly and keep well-trimmed in all the right places (wink).
Smelling good and having good hygiene is important to attracting women. According to the Social Issues Research Centre us women have more heightened sense of smell than men do, which means we’re also sensitive to scents and smells. So remember to put on that aftershave but don’t drown yourself in it. And don’t forget the deodorant – stale sweat and body odour is a big turn-off.
Good Manners and Old-Fashioned Values
Too often these days we forget about good manners, but they can go a long way in attracting women. Think those small, old-fashioned things you can do for a woman such as holding the door open or pulling out her chair. They are simple to do and show that you can be thoughtful about other people and their needs.
As a general rule, keep an eye out for opportunities to be of service to a woman, whether it’s opening a door, accompanying her to an event she cares about, or taking care of an errand she hates to do. She will appreciate that you notice these details and will feel that you care.
Good manners is also about demonstrating respect, and finding a man who respects our values and opinions (even when they’re different to his) is a big turn-on. And it’s not just respecting us – we’ll keep an eye out for how you treat other people, too. So be nice to the waiter or your colleague on the other end of the phone.
Creating Sex Appeal
For women, sex begins well before the bedroom. It involves romance, time spent wooing her, and small touches that aren’t necessarily a rush into bed (sorry guys, patience is a virtue!). Women are attracted to men whose mannerisms promise sensuality and respect. It sounds backwards but getting sex off your mind and treating a woman well will make sure she’s thinking about seduction before too long.